I moved from one date a month to one a week and eventually was going on up to two first-dates a week.
When I had multiple dates lined up, I found myself very relaxed on each date.
When I was relaxed, there was no “doing better” or “doing worse”. For the rest of us, the biggest part of find that special someone is opportunity.
To put it another way: imagine there is a room with 100 singles of the opposite sex in it and in this imaginary room there is one person who is a “match” to you.
When I first started online dating, I had this notion that dating more than one person simultaneously would somehow be insincere. There were times where I would end up talking to a few girls at once but this was always accidental.
With this approach, I went on one first-date every month, sometimes less.