Two days before the potluck dinner that our mutual acquaintance planned with the express purpose of introducing us, I called her and said, "I'm not coming." "Janet," she replied, frustrated, "I'm inviting you here to meet a straight, available man who likes to cook and garden, who makes furniture and has two dogs. I'd find a nice divorced guy, maybe with kids; I'd be the world's best stepmom. And sure, five years younger relatively minor, but to many women that gap would be unacceptable. My husband washes bottles and does nighttime feedings without acting like he's a hero. (At the time, I was 40 to his 35.) "He won't want to be with me when he finds out how old I am." Not so long before, a younger boyfriend had broken up with me by saying, "I think you're going to be too old to have my children." I decided then I'd only date older. We fell in love, got married and now have a baby girl.And I can't think of anything sexier than that James Bond-like knowledge.But it's what he say that I count as the real blessing.But it's not an exact science — there are plenty of immature older men that would put teenagers to shame.Woman D: I'm now married to a man who is five years older than me so I suppose patterns would say I'm attracted to men older than me.
I think that there is definitely some truth to the "age is just a number" mentality, but having the experience I did, I don't buy it completely.
I think it was a thrill for him and gave him a chance to relive some of his adolescence.
Would you say that you are more attracted to older men than younger men, or men in your age group? I've also always been attracted to power dynamics and to the idea of inhabiting a more sexually submissive role.
My eyes popped that night, but four years later, I've realized that this potential deal breaker is actually the biggest blessing of our relationship. After four decades of life, Alex is a walking encyclopedia.
With past boyfriends my age, I knew all of their stories by month three.